About Lisa - Relationship Coach NI

“Let’s live big, let’s live awesome, let’s strive for greatness, and live the life we always knew we could.”

Lisa McFarland

A little bit about Lisa

Hello, my name is Lisa McFarland, I am the UK & Ireland’s Leading Relationship Coach & the founder of Relationship Coaching NI. I’m a wife and mother to three almost grown-up children and have established my professional career in the HR industry. During my HR position a friend at work suggested that I do a life coaching course and I haven’t looked back since. It is my mission to educate you on how to have healthy relationships.

During my training I learnt so much about myself, things like limiting beliefs, how to manage fear and anxiety, how to deal with stress and how it effects our bodies in unhealthy ways. During this time I often pondered to myself ‘The world needs to know of these things!’. Let’s take away the shame and guilt and start educating ourselves on our day to day relationships.

Why am I a Relationship Coach?

As a leading relationship coach, I believe we are all in relationships, either friendships, families or romantic relationship. These can be difficult to manage at times, I believe the tools that I learnt through life coaching are of great benefit when it comes to managing our relationships.

My husband and I have been together 33 years and I can honestly say I am more in love with him now than ever. We use the tools and learning that I received during my training and it has enhanced our relationship beyond belief.

I want to share this knowledge with others. I want coaching to become a normal thing. If you want to get fit you hire a personal trainer, if you want commercial growth your hire a business coach. When it comes to what I believe to be the most important thing, relationships, we just have shame and guilt about asking for help!

It seems like madness to me that we bring all our hurt or pain and bad examples of relationships and think it’s going to work. We would never do this in business or any other part of life but we have shame and guilt about asking for help when it comes to relationships.

My mission is to change this, make it normal to ask for help with relationships, to see it as strength and growth. Let’s be the best versions of ourselves, the people we were brought here to be, ourselves.

Let’s live big, let’s live awesome, let’s strive for greatness, let’s live the life we always knew we could.

My Goal

Is To Offer Long Term Solutions To
Short Term Goals

Self-Worth

When we have a strong sense of self-worth and self-love, I believe we have a much better chance of having healthy relationships. We are able to communicate our needs and desires, I help woman every day to find more self-worth, it is amazing to then see their relationships grow and become more fulfilling. Two whole people building a beautiful relationship.

Intimacy

Lots of couples have issues in this area. Maybe its differences in libido, or difficulties communicating their needs, or maybe they have totally stopped making love and have turned into a roommate. There are lots of tools to use in all these situations, but we just have never been taught. All just need the advice and education.

Communication

This is huge for couples but now many communication techniques do you know? The one I teach all my couples is Five Love Languages, It’s a short quiz and everyone who takes it learns something new about their partner. The five love languages are Time, Touch, Acts of kindness, Words of affirmation and Gifts. Which one is yours?

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What my clients say

I have been feeling very lost and unsure of my new relationship but I have woken up this morning with all of the information you gave me and I feel so confident. I don’t think you have any idea of how you are helping me grow as a person and in a relationship. I felt completely lost and vine called the Samaritans just to figure out what was going on in my life and why other people could have such a hold over me. I now want to become a life coach. You are incredibly inspiring thank you!

Thank you, Lisa. I hope you do too. Thanks for everything. I know it’s early days and we will see where we are by next month. But there has been a massive shift in everything since the last session. I don’t even recognize us! It’s like we are dating again. It’s been a brilliant weekend. Lots of affection, laughs and caring conversations. I don’t know what exactly it was you said but we are doing all the things you said and more. And it’s been amazing. I can’t thank you enough. I know these things take time but the fact there has been a shift at all is half the battle, I think. We have been smiling and hugging nonstop since Friday. And maybe a little more. . Very glad we found you. Hopefully this is the start of a better version of us. I feel like we found each other again. Merry Christmas.

Thank you so much Lisa for organising and facilitating such an inspiring weekend, surrounded by incredibly strong and beautiful women. This was an experience that I will never forget and I feel so blessed to have been a part of it. I have learned that with the right mindset, anything can be conquered, especially the scary and hard things. 48 wonderful hours of physical, mental and spiritual nourishment which has set me off on the right path for the next chapter of this crazy life. Love to you all!

My wife and I are fairly new clients to Lisa, having only had two sessions to date but recommend her highly. Our appointments are informal yet informative and she really allows us to focus on the areas we need to address. One of our primary goals when choosing to sit down with Lisa was to improve our communication as a couple and better understand each others' perspective on things and the areas we have worked through and advice and tasks suggested have helped us enormously in this regard. While we understand a relationship needs constant work to succeed and evolve we both feel confident that Lisa has put us back on the right path in our marriage and look forward to continuing to work with her to make it the best it can be.

I have a new found love and care for my relationship. Learned some well needed things. But massively, when you talk about how we need to work on ourselves first, it has a ring of “this seems like it should be obvious” but in reality, aside from my personal counsellor, I have NEVER in my short 27 years of life EVER heard someone encourage self care in this way and clearly explain the benefit and importance of it on other relationships.

I always kept meaning to message you and I’d keep forgetting but I just love listening to you on Love Bites and I said ‘I have to message her’. I just wanted to thank you for all your advice. It has worked wonders in our relationship and we definitely communicate much better now. I’ve also met the kids and we’re now building those relationships which is good. So, thank you for everything and I hope your business is thriving!