Great Relationships don’t just happen, Love is not enough

Helping couples feel seen, heard and celebrated in their relationship. Giving couples the tips and tools to help you both feel seen heard and celebrated.

we are all in relationships, either friendships, families or romantic relationships. These can be difficult to manage at times, I believe the tools that I learnt through life coaching are of great benefit when it comes to managing our relationships.

Hi, I’m Lisa

Northern Irelands leading relationship coach and founder of Relationship Coaching NI.

My husband and I have been together since we were 18 and I can honestly say I am more in love with him now than ever. We used the tools and learning that I received during my training and it has enhanced our relationship beyond belief. I want to share this knowledge with others. I want relationship coaching to become a normal thing and take away the shame and guilt when it comes to educating ourselves.

I want to share this knowledge with others. I want coaching to become a normal thing.

Expectations Meeting Reality,

the biggest source of arguments.

Lisa Mcfarland

Let’s get your relationship back on track by beating the odds!

Firstly, I want to say well done for looking into ways in which you can improve your relationship. Too often I see people jump ship the minute things get difficult or wait until they have reached the point (of what they believe to be) of no return and leave a relationship without understanding that there could have been another outcome.

Did you know:

But I am not surprised as we have no idea what we are doing. No education and then shame and guilt when it comes to asking for help. We get an education on everything. But when it comes to the most difficult thing, relationships, nothing, just jump in and hope for the best…this is absolute madness. Recent studies show that couples spend on average 35 minutes per week together, shocking!

And the reason for that?

Quality relationships don’t just happen, we need to work on them (more than 35 minutes per week), we need to understand them and sometimes we need support to nourish and fulfil them.

On a weekly basis people invest time in their fitness, their hobbies, their work, their children, their friends and their family…just think…what would happen if you didn’t invest your time in those things?

Now, how much time would you say you and your person invest in your relationship?

If we are being honest, it probably comes last on the list (if at all). Its hard to juggle everything, I know, but now that we know its needed, its simply a case of understanding how to invest in your relationship and thats where I come in.

By combining relationship research and my insights from working with and studying relationships over the last ten years I have created my unique ‘4 C’s formula’ that is designed to:

Just like a PT in your local gym, I am here to coach you and your partner on how to hold space for each other, how to prioritize your relationship.

The 4C’s Results

Thank you, Lisa. I hope you do too. Thanks for everything. I know it’s early days and we will see where we are by next month. But there has been a massive shift in everything since the last session. I don’t even recognize us! It’s like we are dating again. It’s been a brilliant weekend. Lots of affection, laughs and caring conversations. I don’t know what exactly it was you said but we are doing all the things you said and more. And it’s been amazing. I can’t thank you enough. I know these things take time but the fact there has been a shift at all is half the battle, I think. We have been smiling and hugging nonstop since Friday. And maybe a little more. . Very glad we found you. Hopefully this is the start of a better version of us. I feel like we found each other again.


My wife and I are fairly new clients to Lisa, having only had two sessions to date but recommend her highly. Our appointments are informal yet informative and she really allows us to focus on the areas we need to address. One of our primary goals when choosing to sit down with Lisa was to improve our communication as a couple and better understand each others' perspective on things and the areas we have worked through and advice and tasks suggested have helped us enormously in this regard. While we understand a relationship needs constant work to succeed and evolve we both feel confident that Lisa has put us back on the right path in our marriage and look forward to continuing to work with her to make it the best it can be.


    As Featured…

    Will this work for my relationship?

    If you love each other and you both want your connection and intimacy back, then yes. Now, its not always the case that you both feel the same way about each other and what your future holds, but as long as you are both prepared to have a conversation about your relationship, that is the perfect starting point.

    Usually at the start of your relationship ‘work out’ you will find yourself experiencing some (or all) of the following:

    And if you can relate to any (or all) of the above, then I am delighted to tell you that, you no longer need to feel alone, these are the most common relationship problems that I come across, but the great news is, that while it won’t happen overnight, if you are committed to wanting a beautiful, connected, long-lasting relationship together and are prepared to get a little uncomfortable and so some reprogramming, you will see results

    It’s not going to work for us!

    When it comes to couples wanting to work on their relationship, there are normally two big obstacles that we have to overcome:

    1. One person is trying to resolve and improve the relationship while the other is ignoring the problem
    2. The communication between both people is so broken that the possibility of bringing up a conversation about working on their relationship feels extremely overwhelming and scary

    With communication being the NUMBER ONE cause of relationship breakups, this isn’t surprising and I understand how difficult these barriers can be to overcome. This is why I created my ‘Relationship Reconnect Letter’ to help you both with taking the first step in overcoming those painful communication barriers and starting to make time for you and your relationship.

    Your Relationship Reconnect Letter

    A massive part of changing how you and your person feel about each other is down to how you communicate with each other and changing how you communicate with each other is how you will start your journey to reigniting that flame! Sounds easy right? Not so much, as you have probably been in a rut for a number of years now and with that means…we need to reprogram your immediate responses and reactions to one another.

    You see it is a skill that needs to be taught/learnt, it doesn’t just happen, we don’t just magically reprogram overnight we need education and guidance on how to have healthy conflict. With my support I have seen hundreds of couples gain back their passion and respect for each other by learning the art of ‘connection during conflict’.

    To get started, download a copy of my ‘Relationship Reconnect Letter’ which will support you in taking the first step towards working on regaining the love you once had for one another. This template will teach you how to write a letter (or a text) to your lover, explaining how you love them and how you want to feel and what you need from the relationship in an way that removes judgment, blame and helps get you both talking in a safe and guided way. Once you complete your ‘Relationship Reconnect Letter’ we suggest that you ask your person to do the same. Honestly, you will be pleasantly surprised at what a difference this first step makes to your relationship!

    Expectations Meeting Reality,

    the biggest source of arguments.

    What difference can coaching make to my relationship?

    We are sold love and relationship everywhere from music, movies, reality tv, but no one has taken the time to teach us how to actually DO a healthy, nourishing and connected relationship. It’s one of the hardest things in the world, the statistics tell us this.

    By working with a coach to identify those unhealthy behaviours and poor communication traits that you have both picked up over time, you can begin to rebuild your relationship so that it is STRONGER and BETTER than ever. Coaching will teach you both to:

    I want every couple to have:

    And it is possible! Are you ready to do the work? Is your relationship worth saving?

    Where Do I Start?

    This depends on your personal circumstances and the work that you have done to date. If this is your first attempt at working on your relationship, I recommend starting with my Relationship Coaching Online Course – Revive.  For individuals who are solely focused on self development and growth,  check out my Life Coaching Course as this is designed specifically for self work. 

    My Services

    ReLationship Coaching Online

    ReLationship Coaching Face To Face

    Life Coaching

    Free ReLationship Support

    Revive Your Online Coaching Course

    For years I have been coaching couples on how to get their relationship back on track and what I have been asked time and time again by couples is:

    “is there a way to do this without having face to face coaching because my partner is too embarrassed or too headstrong to open up to a stranger, they just won’t show up”

    This is why I have created my Revive’ coaching course designed to improve your relationship together, without shame or embarrassment and from the comfort of your own home. Through this five-week course, you and your person will be guided through breaking down those barriers, addressing your individual relationship needs and identifying healthy practises/communication tools to achieve YOUR BEST RELATIONSHIP YET. Are you ready to be seen, heard and celebrated again?

    Your Revive Course Is Made Up Of

    20 x Video Coaching Modules: to analyse and identify your personal relationship problems

    Accountability Workbooks: to guide you through those difficult conversations

    Research Based Exercises: to support you with overcoming those intimacy barriers

    Lifetime access

    Throughout this course, we will cover the following topics:

    Exercises include:

    To live an unfulfilled life is no life at all!! I want to make your life/relationship easier, more fulfilled, more connected, and more intimate than ever! By the end of this course, I promise that you will both:

    Are you ready

    “To Get your Connection Back’?

    Get the spark back in your relationship now!
    Course Value £1,080! Now £195 for a limited time only!

    Standalone Relationship Courses

    ‘Let me help you not only get ‘IT’ back but make your relationship better than you ever thought it could be’

    Scroll to find specific courses related to specific relationship problems, a great place to start if you know what your main relationship problems are and want to jump right in to exploring what they mean and how to resolve them.

    Course 1

    Getting The Intimacy Back

    Course 2

    Learning How To Argue

    Frequently asked questions

    Is my relationship suitable for Lisa’s support?

    If you are struggling with communication, conflict, connection, confidence, sex and intimacy, and repetitive arguments then yes. Lisa’ experience and expertise will help guide you through all of these difficult problems.

    Are these courses suitable for same sex couples?

    Absolutely! Lisa’s course is designed for all types of relationships and has worked with hundreds of same-sex couples to date.

    I’ve never done anything like this before, where do I start?

    Lisa has a range of free resources available to help you get a feel for the support and services she provides. We recommend starting off with the Relationship Reconnect Letter and or following Lisa on Instagram

    Will I benefit from speaking to Lisa on my own?

    Yes, Lisa enjoys one to one coaching sessions and can support you whether you are in a relationship, about to start a relationship or single. Check out Lisa’s one to one coaching sessions here

    Can I have one-one or couples coaching with Lisa?

    Can I have coaching with Lisa? Yes, Lisa provides one on one and couples coaching, these are completed via Google Meets and can be booked here.

    You can get back to being happy and in love again!

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